Sunday, January 30, 2011

Day 924: Missed Milestone


So far I’ve missed Gilliam’s first crawl, first solid food, first steps, and first word.  As heartbreaking as it is, he was only 6 months old when I left for Pakistan, so missing those milestones were expected.  Not that I am minimizing my fatherly regret for being away… that regret is real… but you can’t expect a boy to stop growing while you’re away. 

However, I had only prepared myself to miss Gilliam’s milestones.  I hadn’t given any thought to potential Grayson milestones I might miss this year.  And I have to say… when it happened, the feelings of absence took me completely off guard.

A while back I mentioned that my parents were giving Grayson a new bicycle for Christmas.  And while I was putting it together Serena asked me not to put the training wheels on, “He’s ready for a two wheeler.”

I was pretty surprised… I hadn’t even thought of Grayson as a two wheeler riding kid.  I was pretty excited by the idea.  But unfortunately, there was too much snow on the ground for us to take it for a test drive before I left.

So… about a week later Serena taught Grayson to ride his bike.  “He’s so good honey, he’s a natural.  You’ll be so proud of him.”

And I am.  I am incredible proud of Grayson for learning to ride his bike without training wheels.  And I am equally thankful to have Serena as my better half.  She is doing such an amazing job with the boys while I’m away.

But, at the same time… I wish I had been there.

And I guess that’s all I have to say about that.

1 comment:

Becky said...

This tugs at my heart. My thanks go to you (and to your family) for your service.